Saturday, January 23, 2010

Now Serving...Celebrating 11 Years!

Because my husband unknowingly willingly takes center stage in so many of my blog ramblings, I thought it would be nice to lay out our little love story… blog style.

Picture it: Mid 1980’s; Hair holding high with Stiff Stuff

About fifteen hairs short of a unibrow and both arms weighed down by seventeen-villion black Madonna rubber bracelets...

But enough about what my husband looked like….

Stop it.

You know it was me.

And unfortunately, so do I.

Pictures don’t lie even if I wanted to.

Be that as it may, he dated me any ‘ole way….for about a minute.

No sex. Nothing hot. Nothing heavy.

Damn it.

But it couldn’t be helped. Because in that brief moment, I remember my inner-self-protection-light blinking contstantly on red alert.

Warning me. Cautioning me …

Do not fall for him…don’t do it…don’t do it ….don’t do it….don’t do it…..

And so….

I didn’t.

Why the caution? Why the alarm? Who knows? But when fate chimes in your ear, it usually works best to listen to it.

Minute over.

Fast forward fifteen or so years later; through the head’s-up of a mutual friend, we meet again.

Happy to see each other with the true warm feeling you get when running into an old friend, we enthusiastically caught up on the decade plus missed.

And why not?

We just drifted apart after that minute and continued on.

Perhaps if sex was involved back then, it might not have been that friendly of a reunion.

Sex screws you sometimes.

But there was never a hard feeling between us.

Damn it.

Our future-moment began as friendly and lighthearted.

A few emails, a couple of games of pool until one day…

It all became more.

Magic comes when you least expect it. And can last as long as you believe.

It came on hard and fast with the power and sizzle of an electrical storm that seared my heart in a way that would make me want to willingly and uncharacteristically give up on my own wholeness and happily become but half of a whole from that point on.

And throughout the years, that magic has held strong with an emotional-glue that I still can’t explain and keeps clinging despite all the deep and unplanned crevices of marriage.

And it has lasted longer than I’d ever dreamed it would.

Over time, sizzling storms lovingly and softly melded into dream sharing and supportive hand holding accompanied by an ongoing celebration of a beautiful child created out of that love.

And now, a revised kind magic has slowly settled its’ way on back to us.

Not as electrically charged or shockingly bright as in the beginning, but a warm safe and secure buzz to be sure.

I could never explain the mystery of fate or the wise old magic that brought us together so many years ago and chose to reunite us again, but it has kept us spell- and determinedly- bound ever since.


Is anyone still there?.......

What? I can do sappy


Lanita on March 23, 2010 at 5:39 PM said...


ReformingGeek on March 23, 2010 at 5:41 PM said...

Yes, you can do sappy!

Very nice.

Now, if you will excuse me, I need to find a toilet.


Yankee Girl on March 23, 2010 at 5:42 PM said...

You absolutely CAN do sappy!

What a great love story. It made me all warm and fuzzy inside.

What? I can do warm and fuzzy.

Meg on March 23, 2010 at 5:46 PM said...

You're pretty good at sappy. I wish I'd known to bring my bucket along :-S

Andrea on March 23, 2010 at 5:53 PM said...

AWWWW! So sweet!

adrienzgirl on March 23, 2010 at 6:41 PM said...

I loved every single sappy word! WORD!

You just the same as me.....a great big SAP!

Tracie on March 23, 2010 at 6:55 PM said...

I hope you have many more happy years together! We are all allowed to be sappy once in a while. I was getting ready to do a similar story about my husband. d

Anonymous said...

sex can screw you. funny that.

and i like the love story. it sounds like our story except i didn't go through the madonna phase considering i had just been born.

i feel like i've missed out.

Lisa@GrandmasBriefs on March 23, 2010 at 7:05 PM said...

... "deep and unplanned crevices of marriage ..." I *love* that!

You do sappy oh-so well. You truly warmed my heart and brought a smile to my face.

Sappy becomes you, my friend!

Simply Suthern on March 23, 2010 at 7:09 PM said...

That's is really sweet. I remember the stiff stuff. Dippity Doo

MommaKiss on March 23, 2010 at 7:11 PM said...

sex screws you.



LucyCooper on March 23, 2010 at 7:14 PM said...

I love it. My husband and I dated casually for a couple of months, then sorta broke it off, and then one day I accidentally (SWEAR) called him, we started talking.... and now we have two kids and a mortgage.

Brooke@Brooke'sBargains on March 23, 2010 at 7:21 PM said...

I'm so glad I stumbled upon your blog! Yes it was sappy but I truly enjoyed reading it!!! I love a good Love Story! Congrats and I wish you many more years of happieness! I'm now following you :)


Robin on March 23, 2010 at 7:50 PM said...

Dear Mrs Sappalot...Wow...This was a real look into the "unknown" you...Mmmmm veerryyy interesting...and I truly enjoyed two were meant to be together...I love a good or not...but now I want to know more about the Madonna thingy...are bracelets and big hair all you had in common..?..and congrats on 11 years and still going strong..that is wonderful...!!... is it your anniversary today..?..if so HaPpy AnNiVeRsArY..!

Juliana on March 23, 2010 at 8:11 PM said...

I just love this post! How sweet!

Maureen@IslandRoar on March 23, 2010 at 9:01 PM said...

Sometimes sappy just hits the spot!

Claudya Martinez on March 23, 2010 at 9:25 PM said...

Aww, you do sappy well. Happy 11 years!!!

hypermom on March 24, 2010 at 12:14 AM said...

Congratulations, dear! You're so lucky to have blissfully found that secure buzz :) I am so jealous! Mwahahahaha

Andrea McKay on March 24, 2010 at 3:19 AM said...

Sappy? Nah. That was sweet! Congratulations! Also, I love the visual of your husband wearing Madonna bracelets. ;) Thanks for that.

People Who Know Me Would Say: on March 24, 2010 at 3:53 AM said...

Mega Congratulations to you and Mr. Blogsalot! To have made it past a decade puts you in an elite class of married folk. It's the equivalent of what used to be 77 years! Encore!!

I found the post not at all sappy, but sweet and identifiable...and just a wee bit scary. "Giving up our wholeness willingly" - so many of us do that when we fall fast and hard, in the beginning. So that right there is a different kind of blog post - a cautionary tale to younger women.

But that bit aside... Congratulations!!!!!

life in the mom lane on March 24, 2010 at 4:54 AM said...

oh wow... kewl you wore Madonna bracelets???? do you have a pic????

Dual Mom on March 24, 2010 at 4:58 AM said...

Wow! Who knew you had it in you?!?!

What a great story! It was meant to be, obviously.

Moooooog35 on March 24, 2010 at 5:06 AM said...

Sex screws you?

You learn something new every day.

Jen on March 24, 2010 at 5:24 AM said...

Awww, that was so.... nice. I really wanted to see a picture. I loved the rubber bracelets.

Ian on March 24, 2010 at 5:57 AM said...

Wow, what a post. Very nice. Oh yeah, I want to see what this 15 years ago looked like in your words.

Pics or it never happened.

Susan R. Mills on March 24, 2010 at 7:35 AM said...

What a great story! I had the big hair and the Madonna bracelets too.

Liz Mays on March 24, 2010 at 9:04 AM said...

Oh my gosh, this is so beautiful!!! I love that magic!!!! But I do kinda want to see you decked in that 80's regalia.

Linda Medrano on March 24, 2010 at 10:02 AM said...

I love this! So magical and tres romantic! Lovely Mrs. B.

Ducky on March 24, 2010 at 11:27 AM said...

F*ck a duck....

sorry, sometimes sappy gets to me. I just need a moment please.....
. onto this revised magic thing. Do you give lessons? Someone needs them....and it ain't me

BugginWord on March 24, 2010 at 11:29 AM said...

What? Huh? I missed the end because I was frantically digging through the back of my closet to try and find my old jelly bracelets and shoes.

You're adorable, btw.

Ziva on March 24, 2010 at 11:32 AM said...

Aww, what a wonderful love story.. I'm happy you found magic. :)

Also, we're going to need pics of the Madonna phase.

Anonymous said...

of course you can do sappy! (i believe we get a quarterly sap pass). wonderful story!

Mama-Face on March 24, 2010 at 2:14 PM said...

Lovely lovely. I've always thought you were plenty sappy. :)

Joann Mannix on March 24, 2010 at 3:11 PM said...

Once again, I don't know why the hell my Blogger isn't updating you. It's really making me mad.

Not only can you do sappy, you can do quite beautifully. That is one of the most lovely descriptions of a long-term marriage I have ever read.

Beautiful, indeed.

Unknown on March 24, 2010 at 3:45 PM said...

Wiping tear away. That was so beautiful. Lovely raw emotion. Congratulations! 11 years and no blood splattered walls or CSI anniversary body chalk outlines on the living room rug.

Dorothy on March 24, 2010 at 4:11 PM said...

Lovely words and don't let go, this can last forever...

Dorothy from grammology

Mike on March 24, 2010 at 5:02 PM said...

I can understand the magic...I am experiencing it right now.

Jack and Alex Manning on March 24, 2010 at 8:22 PM said...

Just sweet and sappy enough. I want to see that picture!!!

Peryl @ parenting ad absurdum

Brilliant Sulk on March 24, 2010 at 11:35 PM said...

So are unibrows out? I DID NOT get the memo.

Oh but seriously, sounds like you and I married the same guy.

Um, he's not the same guy. Right?

marymac on March 25, 2010 at 4:30 AM said...

Remembering: sex totally screws you. No WONDER I ended up with four kids!
Love this post- congrats on both the celebration AND the embracing of the sappy!
;) cheers!

Anonymous said...

Sex does screw us sometimes. It's highly addictive..


The Absence of Alternatives on March 25, 2010 at 7:46 AM said...

Yes, you can do sappy. :-) I guess, I should say Happy Anniversary?!

Lothiriel on March 26, 2010 at 11:10 AM said...

Congrats to you and the Mr!!!!

What a happy story! I agree, maybe sex in the beginning would have changed everything!! :)

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