Because my husband unknowingly willingly takes center stage in so many of my blog ramblings, I thought it would be nice to lay out our little love story… blog style.
Picture it: Mid 1980’s; Hair holding high with Stiff Stuff
About fifteen hairs short of a unibrow and both arms weighed down by seventeen-villion black Madonna rubber bracelets...
But enough about what my husband looked like….
Stop it.
You know it was me.
And unfortunately, so do I.
Pictures don’t lie even if I wanted to.
Be that as it may, he dated me any ‘ole way….for about a minute.
No sex. Nothing hot. Nothing heavy.
Damn it.
But it couldn’t be helped. Because in that brief moment, I remember my inner-self-protection-light blinking contstantly on red alert.
Warning me. Cautioning me …
Do not fall for him…don’t do it…don’t do it ….don’t do it….don’t do it…..
And so….
I didn’t.
Why the caution? Why the alarm? Who knows? But when fate chimes in your ear, it usually works best to listen to it.
Minute over.
Fast forward fifteen or so years later; through the head’s-up of a mutual friend, we meet again.
Happy to see each other with the true warm feeling you get when running into an old friend, we enthusiastically caught up on the decade plus missed.
And why not?
We just drifted apart after that minute and continued on.
Perhaps if sex was involved back then, it might not have been that friendly of a reunion.
Sex screws you sometimes.
But there was never a hard feeling between us.
Damn it.
Our future-moment began as friendly and lighthearted.
A few emails, a couple of games of pool until one day…
It all became more.
Magic comes when you least expect it. And can last as long as you believe.
It came on hard and fast with the power and sizzle of an electrical storm that seared my heart in a way that would make me want to willingly and uncharacteristically give up on my own wholeness and happily become but half of a whole from that point on.
And throughout the years, that magic has held strong with an emotional-glue that I still can’t explain and keeps clinging despite all the deep and unplanned crevices of marriage.
And it has lasted longer than I’d ever dreamed it would.
Over time, sizzling storms lovingly and softly melded into dream sharing and supportive hand holding accompanied by an ongoing celebration of a beautiful child created out of that love.
And now, a revised kind magic has slowly settled its’ way on back to us.
Not as electrically charged or shockingly bright as in the beginning, but a warm safe and secure buzz to be sure.
I could never explain the mystery of fate or the wise old magic that brought us together so many years ago and chose to reunite us again, but it has kept us spell- and determinedly- bound ever since.
uh...hello?
Is anyone still there?.......
What? I can do sappy
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Yes, you can do sappy!
Very nice.
Now, if you will excuse me, I need to find a toilet.
;-)
You absolutely CAN do sappy!
What a great love story. It made me all warm and fuzzy inside.
What? I can do warm and fuzzy.
You're pretty good at sappy. I wish I'd known to bring my bucket along :-S
AWWWW! So sweet!
I loved every single sappy word! WORD!
You just the same as me.....a great big SAP!
I hope you have many more happy years together! We are all allowed to be sappy once in a while. I was getting ready to do a similar story about my husband. d
sex can screw you. funny that.
and i like the love story. it sounds like our story except i didn't go through the madonna phase considering i had just been born.
i feel like i've missed out.
... "deep and unplanned crevices of marriage ..." I *love* that!
You do sappy oh-so well. You truly warmed my heart and brought a smile to my face.
Sappy becomes you, my friend!
That's is really sweet. I remember the stiff stuff. Dippity Doo
sex screws you.
heh.
brilliant.
I love it. My husband and I dated casually for a couple of months, then sorta broke it off, and then one day I accidentally (SWEAR) called him, we started talking.... and now we have two kids and a mortgage.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your blog! Yes it was sappy but I truly enjoyed reading it!!! I love a good Love Story! Congrats and I wish you many more years of happieness! I'm now following you :)
Brooke
www.brookesbargains.com
Dear Mrs Sappalot...Wow...This was a real look into the "unknown" you...Mmmmm veerryyy interesting...and I truly enjoyed it...you two were meant to be together...I love a good romance..sex or not...but now I want to know more about the Madonna thingy...are bracelets and big hair all you had in common..?..and congrats on 11 years and still going strong..that is wonderful...!!... is it your anniversary today..?..if so HaPpy AnNiVeRsArY..!
I just love this post! How sweet!
Sometimes sappy just hits the spot!
Aww, you do sappy well. Happy 11 years!!!
Congratulations, dear! You're so lucky to have blissfully found that secure buzz :) I am so jealous! Mwahahahaha
Sappy? Nah. That was sweet! Congratulations! Also, I love the visual of your husband wearing Madonna bracelets. ;) Thanks for that.
Mega Congratulations to you and Mr. Blogsalot! To have made it past a decade puts you in an elite class of married folk. It's the equivalent of what used to be 77 years! Encore!!
I found the post not at all sappy, but sweet and identifiable...and just a wee bit scary. "Giving up our wholeness willingly" - so many of us do that when we fall fast and hard, in the beginning. So that right there is a different kind of blog post - a cautionary tale to younger women.
But that bit aside... Congratulations!!!!!
oh wow... kewl you wore Madonna bracelets???? do you have a pic????
Wow! Who knew you had it in you?!?!
What a great story! It was meant to be, obviously.
Sex screws you?
You learn something new every day.
Awww, that was so.... nice. I really wanted to see a picture. I loved the rubber bracelets.
Wow, what a post. Very nice. Oh yeah, I want to see what this 15 years ago looked like in your words.
Pics or it never happened.
What a great story! I had the big hair and the Madonna bracelets too.
Oh my gosh, this is so beautiful!!! I love that magic!!!! But I do kinda want to see you decked in that 80's regalia.
I love this! So magical and tres romantic! Lovely Mrs. B.
F*ck a duck....
sorry, sometimes sappy gets to me. I just need a moment please.....
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Okay...now onto this revised magic thing. Do you give lessons? Someone needs them....and it ain't me
What? Huh? I missed the end because I was frantically digging through the back of my closet to try and find my old jelly bracelets and shoes.
You're adorable, btw.
Aww, what a wonderful love story.. I'm happy you found magic. :)
Also, we're going to need pics of the Madonna phase.
of course you can do sappy! (i believe we get a quarterly sap pass). wonderful story!
Lovely lovely. I've always thought you were plenty sappy. :)
Once again, I don't know why the hell my Blogger isn't updating you. It's really making me mad.
Not only can you do sappy, you can do quite beautifully. That is one of the most lovely descriptions of a long-term marriage I have ever read.
Beautiful, indeed.
Wiping tear away. That was so beautiful. Lovely raw emotion. Congratulations! 11 years and no blood splattered walls or CSI anniversary body chalk outlines on the living room rug.
Lovely words and don't let go, this can last forever...
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
I can understand the magic...I am experiencing it right now.
Just sweet and sappy enough. I want to see that picture!!!
Peryl @ parenting ad absurdum
So are unibrows out? I DID NOT get the memo.
Oh but seriously, sounds like you and I married the same guy.
Um, he's not the same guy. Right?
Remembering: sex totally screws you. No WONDER I ended up with four kids!
haha
Love this post- congrats on both the celebration AND the embracing of the sappy!
;) cheers!
xoxo
Sex does screw us sometimes. It's highly addictive..
Secretia
Yes, you can do sappy. :-) I guess, I should say Happy Anniversary?!
Congrats to you and the Mr!!!!
What a happy story! I agree, maybe sex in the beginning would have changed everything!! :)
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